Thanks for the suggestion to send these notes out. I don't know if i got everyone, but I sent to any I could tell got her notes. Below is the gist of what I said in each note.
I am currently a chat room administrator on Live Ireland, and, as you know, someone calling herself/himself/themselves edith, under the login love2love, has been spamming members of Live Ireland. My wife got one of them.
Several of us suspect this is perhaps a group, and almost certainly spammers or trolls. I am writing those "she" contacted to say that, while there are a lot of good people on live ireland, one must be careful anywhere online. I suggest not contacting anyone you don't know outside the confines of Live Ireland security.